Tantric sex Expert Voices Today

Making Noise to Help You and Your Lover Understand the Pleasure Cycle

I’m an advocate for making noise when you’re experiencing pleasure. Making noise during sexual play is a turn-on and helps you know where your partner is in the sexual response cycle. The signs of arousal and stimulation, especially in women, are very hard to interpret, even with sound added. When you open up your mouth to let sound out, you literally open up the body cavity and allow the energy and pleasure to be transported throughout your body. The fifth chakra, your throat chakra area, is all about speaking your truth. It is the ultimate act of claiming that truth to let it be known during pleasurable sexual activities. More…

Ears - Erogenous Zone Alert

The Kama Sutra speaks of erotic sensuality, above all else. Paying special attention to the secondary erogenous zones ads variety and sensual sensations often missing in love play. Finding places on the body that call attention to several of our senses at once is a wonderful way to give attention to a lover. The ear is especially important as an erogenous zone because you can nibble it, gently manipulate it with your soft lips, bite it both gently and more forcibly and you can speak into it erotic words of love and endearment. Both men and women need a lot of verbal reassurance from their partners and this is why it is a very important zone. It can handle a lot of different kinds of stimulation! More…

Ears - Erogenous Zone Alert

The Kama Sutra speaks of erotic sensuality, above all else. Paying special attention to the secondary erogenous zones ads variety and sensual sensations often missing in love play. Finding places on the body that call attention to several of our senses at once is a wonderful way to give attention to a lover. The ear is especially important as an erogenous zone because you can nibble it, gently manipulate it with your soft lips, bite it both gently and more forcibly and you can speak into it erotic words of love and endearment. Both men and women need a lot of verbal reassurance from their partners and this is why it is a very important zone. It can handle a lot of different kinds of stimulation! More…

Everything You Do

Everything we do in life has the potential to be transformational when we put our consciousness to it. We go about life mostly living in the past or the future. That looks like this in our brain: “What am I going to fix for dinner? When is the car going to get new tires? Why didn’t I do this when I was younger? If I walk the dog now I’ll be late for my favorite TV show.” And on and on. You could be in an exciting situation when all of these things are going on in your head and miss the whole thing. Which is what happens to many people while they are supposed to be enjoying themselves having sex. They just aren’t there. More…

Everything You Do

Everything we do in life has the potential to be transformational when we put our consciousness to it. We go about life mostly living in the past or the future. That looks like this in our brain: “What am I going to fix for dinner? When is the car going to get new tires? Why didn’t I do this when I was younger? If I walk the dog now I’ll be late for my favorite TV show.” And on and on. You could be in an exciting situation when all of these things are going on in your head and miss the whole thing. Which is what happens to many people while they are supposed to be enjoying themselves having sex. They just aren’t there. More…

Relaxation is a Key

If you learn to deeply relax your whole body and breathe deeply into your abdomen during sensual activities your experience will be more fulfilling. Here’s an example of why this works so well. Many women get to about a 7 or 8 level of arousal (based on a 1 to 10 scale) during sexual activity and then something happens – the feeling slips away. They struggle to get it back and then, at that same arousal level of 7 or 8, it slips again. It’s been observed that many women hold their breath at this point in the cycle. More…

Annual AASECT Meeting

I’ve just come back from a five-day trip to New Orleans for the annual AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Councilors and Therapists). This is a group of people who are so warm, brilliant, dedicated and interesting that I feel blessed to be one of them. As luck would have it, not only did I have a product booth, with specific Tantra products, but two presentations I had applied for went through, also. More…

Do It Every Night

What happens when we make a leap-of-faith and decide to do something that sounds so radical to our friends and family but seems perfectly sane to us? One example might be the two couples who recently made the decision to make love for either everyday for a year or at least for 101 days. They have new books out, 365 Nights and Just Do It, so you can read about them. From the looks of their very smiley pictures it must have worked but I confess I haven’t read the books. More…